THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast we interviewed Tamir Berkman, Divorce Cowboy. This cowboy is a divorce coach for men. Tamir only works with men because as a man, he believes he can address the emotional issues that men go through differently than women when in a relationship break-up. Tamir uses, as one of his approaches, Equine Therapy. Equine Therapy is relatively new as a defined way to sort out feelings and gain perspective on why the relationship didn’t work.
Want to know the FIRST thing you need to do when separating? Reach an Emotional Equilibrium. Here's why... 👇 About 70% of divorces are initiated by women. On average, a person spends about two years thinking about divorce before taking action. This means that when a woman says: "I want a divorce", she's in a state of conclusion after deliberation. The man is in the opposite state of mind. He's probably hearing about it for the first time (sometimes by denying the signs). The
It's been 2.5 years since my separation. Here are the lessons I've learned 👇 1. The biggest difference between success & failure is support. 2. The second biggest difference between success & failure is taking responsibility. 3. All people are doing what they think is best at the time, even if it doesn't appear so. 4. Blaming myself and others is the easiest way to get stuck. 5. It's impossible to grow while still in denial. 6. The only thing I can change is myself. 7. The o
They’re easy, take seconds and have a big return on investment. 1. Asses your emotions Take a big breath, close your eyes, and scan your body in your mind. Try to feel if there's pain, tension, or discomfort in your body. What are you feeling? Is it sad, angry, fear or joy? Something else? Say: "I am feeling X (name the feeling) in my X (name the body part)". 2. Be aware of your judgements Everyone judges. All the time. Judgement is a way to categorize our experiences. But wh
It was so easy for me to step right into victim mode: "SHE did this", "SHE broke our family", "SHE made my life a living hell!" "It’s true! I’m the good guy!" If you’re nodding right now, consider this: How does it feel to be a victim? Yes, being in victim mode, is providing pity, sympathy and temporary release of anger. But it doesn’t help me move on! Does blaming her feel powerful? A victim is powerless. Do I want to be powerless? No I don't. If I keep going, I will find my
and sometimes I swear she's my biggest teacher. Here's another thing that happened this week... When I got my daughter to kinder on Monday morning, I realised she doesn't have a hat. My mind started a familiar pattern saying things like: "How can you neglect your child?" and "You should be more responsible" (Self-limiting beliefs coupled with expectations) I was upset. Where's that hat? After checking with the ex, she replied: "Oh yes, I went after you with the hat, but you w
45min chat, no charge. Just connect and message me. You will be offered: 1. A safe space to share what's happening in your life, your thoughts and feelings 2. Tools and techniques to support you 3. A road map to overcome separation and live your truth If you're going though separation, this is the time to put yourself first. Just DM me and we can set up a time. Until then, choose yourself! #coaching #mentalhealth #personaldevelopment
"Are you ok?" should be asked every week. When separating it should be asked every day. If you're going through separation right now, I invite you to talk with me today. No charge. Just connect and message me.
You will be offered:
1. A safe space to share what's happening in your life, your thoughts and feelings
2. Tools and techniques to support you
3. A road map to overcome separation and live your truth
Put yourself first and talk - this can be on the phone or zoom.
I hear you. She decided to break it up. It seemed to happen out of nowhere. I know exactly how you feel as I felt the same when my ex told me: “I’m not doing us anymore”. She was the one to break our family. She was the one unwilling to work things out. She was the one creating this hell on earth for me. I blamed her and felt so right. But it was wrong - as long as I blamed her, I couldn't move forward with my life. As a separation coach, I see many men stuck in this position