Three things I’ve learned as a newly single man:
1. Taking it slow
I don't want to jump into another serious relationship too soon.
I’m still healing and figuring out how to not repeat past behaviours.
I need to be a single male for a while, so spending time with friends is highly recommended.
If I do have sexual relationships, I keep them non-monogamous. (Honesty and clear communication are key to this)
2. Love myself
Being a separated single dad doesn't mean the fun stops, on the contrary.
I find that almost two years after my separation, I can enjoy healthy dating life as a single man.
The key is to be ok with being with myself before I start another serious relationship.
I took the time to learn how to enjoy time alone.
I took time to heal and grow.
I’ve done some self-development work.
I’ve created a life that if full and meaningful, so I won’t need a relationship to fill my cup.
3. Think of dating as an experiment
I love using dating as a big experiment designed for me to learn what I like, what I don't like, how to communicate honestly and how to be in a healthy and supportive relationship that focuses on my growth.
By ignoring the outcome, I can explore freely and be honest about my wants and needs, without fearing rejection.
How do you find dating after separation?
Whenever you're ready, here are two ways I can guide you through separation:
1. Download the Separation survival guide: https://www.divorcecowboy.com.au/copy-of-the-workbook
2. Book a FREE 15min call: https://calendly.com/tamir-berkman-divorcecowboy