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Going through a divorce or separation? Here's how to deal with sadness

My separation was full of sadness. It was living in my stomach, weighing me down and killing me softly. So, I decided to kill it first by rolling it up in a rug and burry it deep down so I won't feel it anymore.


But... emotions that are buried become zombies. They'll come back up, haunt you and eat you alive.


Here's how I learnt to deal with sadness instead:


Step #1 - To accept and welcome

I'm taking a big breath and welcoming my sadness. I slow down enough to appreciate it. I welcome it. I call it a name (mine is called Betty). What name do you call your sadness?


Step #2 - To sit with it

I imagine having tea with my sadness (Betty). What will she say? What will I answer? We cry together. We listen to some sad music, then cry some more. I remind myself that my sadness is a guest and will stay for as long as I want it to stay. I go to bed hoping it will be gone in the morning.


Step #3 - To farewell creatively

When I feel it's time to end sadness visit, I'm saying goodbye as I do to an old friend. I also let my sadness go creatively. I write about it in my journal, draw a picture of it or sing about it. Bye bye Betty.


PS. If you find it difficult to get off the emotional rollercoaster, let's work on it. Contact me for details.


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In the photo: A picnic with Betty.



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