Are you going through separation? By understanding which ‘stage of change’ you're at, you can determine the most fitting strategies for moving forward.
Here are the stages:
Pre-contemplation – You have no intention to change your behaviour. You're unaware of your problem although your mates can see you're struggling to cope with the separation.
Contemplation - You are aware of the problem and thinking of possible solutions but resist making a commitment to act. You find it hard to assess the effort, energy, and loss it will cost you to overcome separation.
Preparation - You are contemplating acting in the future and can see small positive changes. Although these baby steps are great, you haven't yet accomplished effective headway.
Action - You change your behaviour, experiences, and your environment to overcome separation. You are putting significant time and effort and manage to live in a healthy way for up to 6 months.
Maintenance - You constantly work to avoid falling back to unhealthy behaviour. This stage extends from 6 months forward. Being successful in avoiding the unhealthy behaviour for more than 6 months is a proof of being in the maintenance stage.
Relapse - You go back to the original unhealthy behaviour.
Which stage are you at?