When you're separating, friends will ask you questions.
Here's how to respond to keep your healthy separation on track: 👇
Q: What happened? I thought you were the perfect couple.
Repeating the story of what went wrong isn't going to make you feel better.
Yes, give some general details but keep it short. Talk more about how you feel and the support you need.
If you need to unload the entire story, get a journal and write it down. Writing is like telling someone, without the judgement.
Q: Who broke it off?
"She said X and then I said Y" might get you sympathy, but will also keep you in a victim state.
It takes two people to start a relationship, it takes two people to keep a relationship and it takes two people to end a relationship.
Yes, even if one of them initiated the separation.
Q: What's going to happen next? What are you going to do with the house?
Try to avoid talking about "who gets what". Focus on taking small steps, one day at a time. Talk about your feelings, and the support you'd like.
The bottom line is:
You don't need to answer more questions about the separation.
You need to ask more questions about yourself.
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