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It usually starts when my ex calls me out of the blue...

She says something, and I can feel the volcano inside me. ๐Ÿ‘‡


She is my most triggering person in the world.


It's like she's pushing all my buttons at once.


And the first thing I want to do is to say to her:


"Well, this is what happens when you leave a relationship."


OR


"What do you expect to happen when you break up a family?"


WARNING: BLAMING MAKES ME A VICTIM.


When I'm triggered this way my victim rises.


I blame.


I hurt.


I call her names (in my head).


But in all this drama I know.


I just need some time.


To sit with what was said.


To acknowledge how I feel about it.


To figure it out.


None of this is really about her.


It's all about me.


My perspective.


My thoughts.


My actions.


I breath.


And sit.


and figure this out.


With myself.


Whenever you're ready, here are two ways I can guide you through separation:

1. Download the Separation survival guide: https://www.divorcecowboy.com.au/copy-of-the-workbook




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