I didn't tell my parents about my separation for two years.
I kept it hidden from my friends.
It was my dirty secret...
One of the most prominent emotions I had while separating was shame.
I was ashamed of my situation. I was ashamed of what I've done and of what I've become.
I felt shame that my family was now broken, I felt shame that I chose the wrong person.
I felt like I failed in life.
This is not true.
30% of marriages end in divorce, so separation is normal.
hmm...I was just normal after all.
Not the prefect partner.
Not the perfect guy.
Not the perfect anything.
I was me.
I needed to be ok with being just that. Me.
Shame goes out quickly when I release.
When I communicate.
When I forgive myself.
Can you do that?